How to Help

If you think a fellow marine, family member, or friend might be suicidal, help by taking action. People who kill themselves see suicide as the only remaining solution to their problems. If an individual has displayed any warning signs for suicide or, if you get a "sense" that he or she may act, don't wait. Take action! Remembering the Marine Corps Values of Honor, Courage and Commitment, can empower us to make a difference in the life of someone who might be at risk for suicide. Suicide can be prevented. Below are some tips on how to help.

Remember: AID LIFE

A Ask. Do not be afraid to ask, "Are you thinking about killing yourself?" or "Are you thinking about suicide?"

I Intervene immediately. Take action. Listen and let the person know he or she is not alone.

D Don't keep it a secret . Let someone know that you think there may be a risk.

L Locate help. Seek out the help of a Chaplain, Marine and Family Service Center, corpsman, doctor, friend, family member, or emergency room staff.

I Inform the Chain of Command of the situation. The Chain of Command can secure necessary assistance resources for the long term.

F Find someone to stay with the person now. Never leave a suicidal person alone.

E Expedite. Get help now! An at-risk person needs immediate attention from professional caregivers.

Remember: Be a FRIEND

F: Friends

R: Respond

I:Immediately

E: Ensuring

N: Nobody

D: Dies

Here are some ways to be helpful to someone who is threatening suicide:

Be direct. Talk openly and matter-of-factly about suicide.
Be willing to listen. Allow expressions of feelings. Accept the feelings.
Be non-judgmental. Don't debate whether suicide is right or wrong, or feelings are good or bad. Don't lecture on the value of life.
Get involved. Become available. Show interest and support.
Don't dare him or her to do it.
Don't act shocked. This will put distance between you.
Don't be sworn to secrecy. Seek support.
Offer hope that alternatives are available but do not offer glib reassurance.
Take action. Remove means, such as guns or stockpiled pills.

Get help from persons or agencies specializing in crisis intervention and suicide prevention.

The Leaders Guide for Managing Marines in Distress is an excellent tool to consult on how to handle and solve a variety of different problems including what to do if a Marine is suicidal.