We all have non-negotiables in relationships. But how many strikes before you’re out? Boundaries are fundamental—they teach others how to treat us. Knowing your boundaries and communicating them clearly is essential. 

Ending a relationship is hard, especially when there is a strong connection. But sometimes, love alone isn't enough. If feeling negative about your partner or wondering why you're with them, that's a big warning sign. Another issue is feeling like they don’t value or respect you. Relationships should be a safe and comfortable place. If you don't feel heard or seen, it means there's a lack of respect and emotional safety. 

Having different goals and values can also cause problems. If your future goals or values conflict, it can create big obstacles if compromise is not an option. The biggest sign to end a relationship is any form of abuse or violence. Any threat or violation to your safety should be an automatic deal-breaker. No one should feel scared or hurt in their relationship; everyone deserves to feel safe, secure, and respected. 

Other potential red flags include cheating, emotional distance, or not being able to communicate or solve problems in a healthy way. If any of these resonate with you, it's worth considering whether your happiness is worth holding onto the relationship. It may be time to seek help or talk with a trusted friend or mentor. 

The Family Advocacy Programs provides a variety of supportive services including prevention, home visitation, advocacy and clinical services. 

For more information on healthy relationships, visit Military One Source’s Relationships section at https://www.militaryonesource.mil/relationships/.